Are You Positive?

DISCOVER YOURSELF IN THESE LITTLE LINES.
How you say … what you say … even to yourself … will show you what your overall outlook or personal zeitgeist is (zeitgeist is the defining spirit or mood for your life). Believe me, you want to realize where you are coming from in conversation and in behavior. If you find yourself mis-communicating, these ideas may reveal why you are experiencing … what you are experiencing … in your life.

What you are saying to yourself or to others will attract good or bad into your life because what you are saying every day is what your overall thinking and feeling is about life and as I have said many times, you create your own life through your behavior.
Do others see/hear/feel that your are positive or negative? Do you prefer being around positive or do you prefer negative? Do you like to hear the latest gossip … or watch the news all the time to see “How many were killed” in an event.? My recommendation is “don’t do that”.

What you think about is what you will attract into your life.

If you have ever been to Sunday School or read the Bible you may recall what Job is quoted as saying: “For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me”.

In other words … what you think about is the most likely thing to happen to you.

Here is an quote from Abraham Lincoln:
“The best way to predict your future is to create it.”

Your create your future out of your view of life which is indicated by your conversation. Conversation with others but more importantly conversation with yourself. How you talk to yourself will show you where your are coming from.

For example, Russell can make a mistake and then say to himself: “Russell, what where you thinking?” or “I can’t believe you did that” or “Good job on that Russell.”

This is a dissociated viewpoint.

This is the same as having someone else overseeing your life rather than accepting full responsibility for your life. Better to say this: “What was I thinking” or better yet “I need to think about this some more” or “I can do better than this”.

This is an associated thinking approach.

In the end, we do create our own life. Taking full responsibility for your life is the best way to improve it. When you try to blame anyone or anything else for your situation then your very life is limited … because in the end we attract EVERYTHING that happens to us based on our thinking. And again, in order to discover our overall approach to life, become aware of your everyday conversation.

You can change your life simply by becoming aware of your language and the words you choose every day.

Here is are samples that will show overall frame of mind:
Negative Frame………………………………Positive Frame
I feel very tired………………………………..I need some rest
I am hungry…………………………………….I need something to eat
I am so hot……………………………………..I would like to cool down
I hate this / that………………………………I prefer this / that.
My back hurts…………………………………I need to rest my back
My feet hurt……………………………………My feet need a rest
The house is dirty…………………………..This house needs cleaning
My mouth is dry……………………………..I need something to drink
I feel anxious…………………………………I need to become calm
I am not prepared for this………………I can get prepared for this
I’m not sure I can do this……………….I can do this
I am afraid…………………………………….I am brave … I can do this
The Sun is too bright today……………..I need to wear sunglasses today.
I have a cold………………………………….I want to feel better
ASSOCIATED: DISASSOCIATED My cold………………………………………….That cold..the one over there away from me.
My cancer………………………………………That cancer
My ulcer…………………………………………That ulcer

I am sure your are starting to get it here?

Negative: “With my luck I will probably screw this up.” (Usually a past situation will pop in your head and if you associate negative emotions with the event, you will intensify those feelings and then bring them into your current situation and therefore attract a negative outcome … and … you do not want to do that). (Where is this kind of thinking coming from? Comparing a current situation that seems similar to previous event.)
Clearly picturing the previous event you are intensifying that memory / feeling / activator.

Positive: “I make my own luck. I can do this.” Picture the best outcome. Associate yourself with the best outcome and you are more likely to attract a better outcome.

You can even go further here and you can Pre-View the upcoming event and see each step in the process unfolding in a great way. For example: Say you are about to start a project. Now … close your eyes and visualize each step in the process happening in the best way. What does this look like? What does this feel like? Go through the entire event all the way to the end. Picture yourself after completing the project so well that you get recognized by your boss for having completed the project well.

Intensify your feelings about a situation by using:

Associated Visualization = Visualizing your activity as though you are in the movie looking out of your own eyes. See what you would be seeing if you are standing there. See your hands and arms. See the other people or things through your own eyes.

Pull association = Pulling the images in your mind closer to you and feeling the feeling associated with the event.

Reduce your feelings about a situation by using:

Dissociated Visualization = Visualizing your activity as though your are watching yourself in a movie.

Push dissociation = Pushing the images away from you. Visualizing your activity as though you are watching yourself watch yourself watching a movie of yourself. This is like walking into a movie theater, seeing yourself in one of the chairs down front and then seeing yourself on the movie screen. You are watching yourself … watch yourself … watching a movie of yourself. The further you can push the movie from you, the less you can feel the events and this means you are less influenced by it.

In other words, mentally push the image away and make it smaller and smaller until it is either reduced to a very small image or completely out of range, maybe even just a small dot on the movie screen of your mind. This will reduce your feelings about the situation. Of course because of the nature of personality to create habits, you may have to repeat this process several times for it to become permanent. But … you will be glad you did.

So, what happens is this, by distancing yourself mentally from a situation that you find hurtful, you can reduce your feelings about it and it will have less influence on your emotions and behaviors. You recall that we have covered the fact that your behavior creates your life.

The other side of the coin here is that by bringing something closer to you you can intensify your feelings about it. The more you can associate yourself with a situation buy seeing the situation as though your are actually in the movie now, you can draw the image to you and make it bigger in your mind which makes it intensify your feelings and emotions about it.

It’s sort of like placing your fingers on an image on your phone and making the image larger. In your mind … you can make the movie closer, larger, brighter, intensify the colors and make the sounds motivating too. So try mentally adjusting these and becoming more “associated” with them and see how your feelings change.

It may take some practice but you will see and feel a difference in your every day activities. You will kick up your good feelings by a notch or two. When this becomes habit, you will find your life changing a little at first then as you get better at this you will find yourself living more and more in “The Magic of Life”. Good things will begin to happen that appear at first to be coincidence but actually you are making things happen because of who you are. You have attracted these events into your life.

Think back to what Jesus said: “As you believe in your heart, so shall it be done unto you”. This is what it means to believe in your heart. It is “Who You Are” at your very core. You do not have to believe that – God / The Universe / All That Is – created a Universe that works this way. You just have to “Want” to believe it’s true … because … this is worth believing.

To recount then … when you want to reduce the emotional affects of an event, use dissociative words in your conversation when referring to something.
That cold … That flu … That headache … That test. Or … when referring to something use the word There in your conversation. As in Over There, away from me… NOT ME. This is disassociated.

When you want to increase the emotion or your feelings about an event, use associative words in your conversation.
This new car … this cold … this flu … this headache … or my cold, or my flu or my headache.

Of course you do not want to associate with a cold or the flu but these give an intense view of what effect your words will have on your feelings and so also your life. Or … when referring to something use the word Here in your conversation to bring it closer. As in Over Here.. next to me or Right Here … it’s part of me. It’s like claiming ownership mentally and emotionally. This is associated.

When you want to bring something emotionally closer to you, use associative words … and when you want to push something further away from you, do not take ownership but dissociate from it.

With these tools you can dissociate from what you don’t want and associate with what you do want.

OTHER:
Ever notice that in our awake state we seem to be locked on to our physical senses. In our sleeping state we are free to be whatever we choose. For example … in our dreams … We can fly … images change in an instant.

The ability to change our lives comes from an acceptance and growing understanding of our bigger self. This is the part of us that is directly connected to God / The Universe / All That Is.

We can open the window to our bigger self and gain glimpses of what is possible for us.

In other words we are much more that we perceive. The first step to gaining access to this huge and creative aspect of ourselves begins by way of a simple recognition or acceptance that “What if it is possible to open our lives to greater possibilities by simply believing?”.

Start by imagining, or if you prefer, visualizing your best outcome. Collect pictures of the outcomes you would like in your life.

Create a visualization board with pictures of what you want to happen or have in your life and look at it regularly. Oprah had several episodes about the value of creating a “Visualization Board”.

I like what Dennis Waitley said about this: “Think about what you want, not what you don’t want”.
And …
“You can not move away from a currently dominant thought.”

What are your currently dominant thoughts? Say this to yourself several times a day until you really get it. What do you want in life? Check what you are thinking about every day. These understandings will begin to lift your spirits. After all … isn’t this how we all want to live our lives … full of promise and possibility?
Well … yeah!

I’m jus’ sayin’ – Russell

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Retired Healthcare Executive Recruiter and Finance Executive.

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